No, it's not our faults indeed. I was sexually abused at the age of 9, and it took me 12 years before I mentioned it to my parents. Their reactions to it were so different. I always kept an eye on my children, educated them, told them they could always tell me anything, and still I couldn't prevent my daughter from being sexually abused. It lasted for maybe a minute or two, but she remembered and screamed and called for me. Still, it scarred her for life...